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Should I tell my Boyfriend I want flowers for my Birthday?

He doesn't like the idea of Valentine's Day, he wouldn't even say 'Happy Valentine's Day' to me. All I want is some flowers, it would make me feel so good. Even a single rose he picked out of his garden would've made my day, but no. I really want some for my Birthday, but if I ask for them the meaningfullness will be gone, but I doubt I'd get them if I don't ask. Should I ask? Or Not...

Public Comments

1. ASK. Why shouldn't you have fun on valentines just because he doesn't like it.
2. You deserve everything you want, so tell him that it would be nice to get flowers every once in a while. Some guys can be totally unaware what you want and I find it often easier to spell it out, because I hate hoping for something only to be disappointed.
3. well, because my girlfriend doesn't tell me she wants only flowers for her b-day or valentine's day i keep ending buying expensive stuff like jewelry or lacoste boots or something else... you can't imagine how many men there must be who wish their GFs or wifes would tell them they only want flower :D
4. You're not going to like this answer, but it sounds like your boyfriend is incredibly self-involved and insensitive. There is absolutely no reason that he couldn't have AT LEAST wished you a Happy Valentine's Day. How terrible! Valentine's Day is more for the girl than it is the guy, and by not acknowledging that day for you, he is just showing you that YOUR needs/wants/desires are not as important to him as him holding himself to his "Valentine's Day is a Hallmark holiday, blah blah blah" excuse not to celebrate. It's quite sad, actually. You aren't asking for much, so DON'T feel guilty about it. If this man truly loves you, and wants to make you happy, he'd JUMP at the chance to make you smile by getting you a bouquet of flowers! Just sit him down one day and tell him what makes you happy: plain and simple. Something like, "You know, I know it may seem silly, but I'd love it if you'd surprise me with flowers or _______ once in a while. It doesn't have to be much.... I just like to know you're thinking of me, and I absolutely LOVE the idea of staring at some flowers and knowing they came from you." Guys aren't mindreaders, so it's important to ask sometimes what you'd like out of a relationship (trust me, this is a concept that was VERY hard for me to accept for the longest time, so I understand if the idea feels awkward or uncomfortable for you at first). The red flag for me in your question was the fact that he wouldn't even wish you a Happy Valentine's Day. That's just pathetic. If he's going to make a big deal about something THAT trivial, I wonder what else he'll come up with as an excuse not to shower you with affection. You deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated, and don't settle for less. PLEASE. <3 Happy Valentine's Day, girlie. :)